Threats to Marriage

Marriage is an extremely controversial topic these days. It seems to be in every night of the news, in many political discussions, as well as in many church discussions. The legalization of gay marriage since 2015 has caused a very large reaction not only in our country but throughout the world.

In a commencement speech at BYU given by Russell M. Nelson on August 14, 2014 he shares that, “In short, as disciples, each of us will be put to the test. At any hour of any day we have the privilege of choosing between right and wrong. This is an age-old battle that started in a premortal realm. And that battle is becoming more intense every day. Your individual strength of character is needed now more than ever before.” I believe this is true and can now see the importance of what he was talking about. Just one year later, gay marriage was legalized. Our prophets, apostles, seers, and revelators really do warn us about what the tumultuous times ahead of us will bring. I think there is power in heeding every word that they share.

President Nelson continues to share, “Dear graduates, families, and friends, the burden of discipleship is heavy. As disciples of the Lord you will stand as defenders of marriage. And as you are true and faithful, not only will He help you and protect you, He will bless your families” (2014). I believe this is true as well now more than ever. We know that the Lord will never ask us to do anything that he would not first provide a way for. It is up to us to stand as defenders of marriage.

For me, two ways stand out of how to do this. First, I believe that the best way to stand as a defender of marriage is to live worthy of yours and be intentional with that relationship. When we are careful and not casual with our covenants, we show an example of why the institution of marriage is important to us. The best way to lead is by example.

Secondly, the best way to stand as a defender of marriage is to teach your children. Each of us is given the opportunity to raise a family here on earth. Within these noisy and tumultuous times, there is so much information being taught. If we don’t take the responsibility to teach our children correct principles, they will find information from other sources.

I would like to end with the blessing from President Nelson, “I bless you with protection, peace, and continual growth as you stand as disciples and defenders of the Lord Jesus Christ and His gospel” (2014).

To read the full address, please go here:

https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/russell-m-nelson/disciples-jesus-christ-defenders-of-marriage/

References:

Nelson, R. M. (n.d.). Disciples and the Defense of Marriage. Retrieved from https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/liahona/2015/08/disciples-and-the-defense-of-marriage?lang=eng.

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